When we met I had one horse and I boarded with my trainer which is a high end full care H/J barn. I spent a moderate amount of time at the barn and was slowing down with showing as Hobbs was getting older. Once we bought property and built a barn it was on. I grew from 1 horse to 5.
I sort of took on the perspective that it was easier to ask for forgiveness than permission. I seriously put him to the test when I bought Poppy. I told him nothing. While he was at work I brought her home. I thought I could buy a few days before he noticed.
He didn't talk to me for 2 weeks. It also didn't help that during the same week I bought Poppy I brought home a puppy (dog #4) when he told me no. Although I envy those with horsey S.O.'s that get to ride together, show together, buy horses together, etc they probably can't do the things my non-horsey S.O. can. He thinks the horses are ridiculous however he lives in the middle of nowhere on acreage for me. He endures the smell of horses, maintains my truck, trailer, golf cart, and all the other joys that go along with horses and horse showing. I don't ask him to take care of the horses when I am away at a show but he can feed or turn out a horse if need be. He doesn't come to the shows with me and I am ok with that. I kind of like hanging out with my friends there all day and not hearing "are you done yet" or "how much did that cost?" Although he thinks horses are ridiculous he always asks how I did. He might ask how the truck ran first, but he does ask. Even when I got home from lessoning on Saturday he came over to the barn and asked how Poppy did. Or maybe he came over to count horses. I'm not sure (yes there was the one time I took Poppy to lesson and came home with another horse. But that's another story). Soon after he came over my eye rolling at the non-horsey S.O. began. See Ketel is still new to shipping and I have a step up trailer. Not all horses take to the step down when unloading. I tried to convince him to unload backing up versus turning around and coming off. The trailer is tight and it is not pretty when he turns around. But he would not have it. He was not backing off the thing. S.O. steps in and decides he can get him off (you see he had a horse once when he was like 10 for a whole summer so he is an expert). Ketel planted and would not move. S.O. pushes and then we had a stand off. Trying to explain to him that it's ok, he's 3 years old, he is scared, by letting him just turn around and unload is not letting him "win" fell on deaf ears. This is when I think "oh why didn't I marry a horse person?" But I will admit it was hilarous watching the stand off and S.O. thinking he could push the Ketel off all while telling him to stop biting Poppy's butt (she was still patiently waiting on the trailer during all this).
Do you ever envy those with horsey S.O's? What are your challenges with a non-horsey S.O.? Oh and what about non-horsey friends??? That's another topic for another day...
Quick update on the horses. I just rode Tank tonight. I felt like he has been a bit neglected so I spent time grooming, clipping, and riding. He was a good boy.
|After riding, puffiness gone|
I suspect the stocking up could be due to a supplement I started Tank on. I am going to stop it for a few days and see what happens. My horses get regular turnout and work so it is not typical for any of them to have stocking.
Ketel worked Tues- Sat of last week so I think he deserves a couple of days off. Poppy too.